Reaching Him

Reaching Him is the first comprehensive guide written specifically for families of male victims of coercive control and psychological abuse.

Written by a survivor who spent a decade trapped in the same patterns your son is living through, this book gives you what no other resource provides: a complete framework for staying connected to someone who has been systematically disconnected from everyone who loves him.

You're watching him disappear.

The man you raised - confident, independent, full of life - has become someone you barely recognise. He defends her against the smallest concern. He's pulled away from family and friends. His world has shrunk to the size of her approval.

You've tried talking to him. You've tried pointing out what you see. Nothing works. Everything you do seems to push him further away.

You're not imagining it. And you're not powerless.

What you'll learn:

• Why he can't see what's happening - and why pointing it out makes things worse
• How masculine identity creates specific vulnerabilities that abusers exploit
• The "leaving the light on" approach that positions you to matter when he's ready
• What to say, what to avoid, and how to handle contact with her
• Stage-by-stage guidance from deep entrapment through crisis and recovery
• How to sustain yourself through what may be a long journey
• Specific guidance for parents, siblings, friends, and professionals

Your son needs you present and capable when the cracks begin to form. This book shows you how to be there.

From Stand Again - lived experience support for male victims of family violence and their families.